Fated to love you Ep 4 – Thoughts and discussion

Hi! Opening the post for spoiler free and comparison free discussion

The wedding: While making screen caps I remember how much I loved the phone call Geon made to Se Ra. It breaks my heart because it reminds me that Se Ra exists, that Geon loved her and that her return is going to bring a lot of pain.

There was a long discussion on twitter about how Geon has betrayed Se Ra and he deserves to be punished by her. To me, betrayal is a very strong word and he doesn’t need more punishment that what he already got. The mess he is in, is not something he initiated. And the “mistake” of marrying Mi Young, was not ill intentioned. It was also for their baby.

While re-watching episode 4, some things became clear to me. One point people bring up ,in defense of Geon, is that Se Ra, left Geon first. This implies that Geon doesn’t owe Se Ra anything. I disagree. Why? Because Geon did not marry Mi Young due to Se Ra. The two events are unrelated.

Geon was hurt, as was evident by his words to Mi Young on episode 2, the pain that Se Ra gave him is what allowed him to identify with Mi Young, right? But he forgave Se Ra, as he had done many times before.

Why didn’t he call Se Ra right away? He never said anything, we only saw him brooding in a locker room and we assumed he was “punishing” Se Ra or just hurt. But when he called her before the wedding he told her “Don’t say sorry, I am the one who is more sorry”

Before that, when he asked Mi Young for marriage he said “I have lost, all my qualifications as a man to Se Ra” This makes it obvious that he feels he wronged Se Ra by sleeping with Mi Young. I don’t even agree he should feel guilty for doing something while drugged. The man was practically raped by those Hamoo guys (I know this is a rom com, but the fact remains) If you think about it, both Geon and Mi Young should go to therapy but anyway, let’s not dwell on that, since the characters apparently accepted this a lot better than some of us did.

Anyway, Geon feels dirty or guilty towards Se Ra before the wedding. He is not yet aware that he was drugged, therefore he blames himself and only himself. I am convinced that the moment he asked Mi Young to marry, he was giving up on Se Ra and thinking of Mi Young as his new parter with whom he would raise a child and possibly make himself love in the future. But his primary reason for marrying Mi Young is to raise their baby. Was it a backwards decision? Well, maybe we either have to accept that this is the drama’s universe or maybe Korean society is different than ours. But I am told that single mothers still carry a stigma in Korea, therefore Geon did what he had to do. Give Mi Young a status and the baby a father.

Then, he finds out he was drugged. He no longer blames himself. Now he feels “raped” wronged, his life turned upside down by complete strangers. His mistake is in blaming Mi Young, who is as much as victim as he is.

Now that he feels he is not guilty of sleeping with Mi Young, I assume he wants to explain the whole mess to Se Ra. Whether he expects her to understand or not is a different matter and we have no clue about this, but Im sure that he is hoping to have such a difficult conversation, in person. Not only is it something almost impossible to explain but he was definitely being careful not to upset Se Ra while she was performing, since these are probably her last chances to be the prima ballerina she has fought so hard to be. Geon knows that Se Ra’s career is more important than him.

His plans with Mi Young changed, now he wants a divorce. But as he becomes convinced that she was also a victim, he’ll be once again torn.

I seriously don’t think the guy deserves any more punishment than what he already got and will get. Sex was not his choice. Marrying was not done for selfish reasons and was done under a lot of distress. Not telling Se Ra by phone has many explanations.

I’ll add screencaps and gifs when I get a chance

For now I watched scenes without subs and, there was a bittersweet wedding and this episode felt particularly like a fairy tale, with Geon turning into “the beast” towards the end 😦 with thunderstorm in the background included. It looked both sad, tragic, scary, but wacky and funny too? This weird mix of “feelings” lol! but it works for me, somehow

There was a lot of emotional scenes too at the beginning, carried very well by our two leads. This is the Jang Hyuk I know btw, the one who shows emotions without talking in a subtle natural way, ahhh my Hyukie, still there somewhere behind crazy Geon. And I’m continuously pleasantly surprised by Jang Nara’s natural acting.

More scenes with Daniel. I guess now that Geon went nuts, he’ll come to help Mi Young (We knew this was going to happen, but I’m kind of sad to lose dashing Geon like that 😦 I hope this “beast” stage doesn’t last too long) And I’m glad we got to see his good side, so we can at least understand if Mi Young has patience with him, during his “stupid” times?

AND I hear a snail kept appearing in the drama WTF? I need to see this and somebody needs to explain the significance of this

LET’S START THE DISCUSSION! 😀